The following is a conversation I had with Jerry Hicks and Lincoln in January of this year. Please ‘like’ and ‘share’. We all need authenticity in our lives.
Donna: It’s Saturday. I slept good and rolled out of bed onto my yoga mat. Stretched and felt the sun start to come up. Saw the light behind my eyelids. Over and over in my head I kept seeing Mr. Lincoln saying, “Live authentically. Live your authentic life.” I started yoga and started to ask, “Show me how to do that. Teach me how to do that. Teach all of us how to do that. Tell us when we are not living authentically and how we can change that.”
As I sit in meditation, I feel every piece of my body, every part of my skin from my pinky toe to my big toe. I feel my shins and my calves and my knees, my thighs, my hamstrings, my buttocks on the cushion. I feel my hipbones, my lower back. I feel where my mid-back is placed against the back of the bed. I feel my shoulder blades. I feel my hands placed and cupped together on my lap. I feel my wrists and my elbows. I feel my arms as they connect to my shoulders. I feel my neck. I feel my jaw. I feel my ears, my head, my eyes, my hair. I feel the way my hair is resting on the right side of my neck. I feel it on my left side. I feel the top of my head. I feel the tingling in my fingers. I notice I did not judge any of that. I just went through my body scan feeling everything I can feel.
Lincoln: That is the beginning of living authentically–that you are who you are. You are sitting on that cushion, feeling. Feel your entire being and that starts with your physical body.
Donna just did a body scan. It brought her more into the present and in the present is where authenticity lives. Being with yourself, whatever comes up. Not to judge. Not to have guilt. Not to deny. To be with yourself with whatever comes up. It is the present.
We talked last time, a couple times ago, of how the words overtook me when I was silent and I judged and I judged myself. I blamed myself for not being better. I blamed myself for not getting over that feeling, that melancholy. I blamed myself. I felt guilty that I couldn’t be present with my family during that time. I had to be alone. I did not live authentically right then and there. To live authentically right then and there would be me accepting who I was in that moment. I would love every piece of me that came up and I would say the words. [Yes Donna, these are your ‘tapping’ words]. I feel these things. Even though I feel all of these things. Even though I feel guilt. Even though I feel shame. This is me and I love me.
Donna: I just noticed when I said those words, “Even though I feel guilt. Even though I feel shame” my body started to cringe. I rolled my shoulders. I tucked my head and then when you said, “I love myself even though I feel all these thing. I love myself.” And when you said that, my body opened. My shoulders rolled back and down and my heart opened. My head lifted slightly. It drew back in line with my spine and I accepted my authenticity. I was being authentic with myself.
Lincoln: What a beautiful expression of how the body reacts to emotion. How the body–how the physical body–reacts to your emotions. You see how that can happen?
Donna: I do. I just noticed, that you were speaking it, but I was feeling it. Even that moment when I said, “feeling it,” my body started to collapse. When I live authentically, and your definition would be ‘living the truthfulness of this moment,’ my heart opens.
Lincoln: You are going through these phases. You are going back and forth. Living and accepting the truth of who you are. When you live and accept the truth of who you are, you live authentically.
So let’s do an activity. Let’s say you are out and about in your day. And you’re working in an office and something happens and you make a mistake. People make mistakes. You notice the mistake, and to not live authentically would be in that moment to blame yourself, to judge yourself, to nurture the feelings of unworthiness instead of the feelings of worthiness. You would start to get angry at yourself and your shoulders will droop and your neck will cringe. And your belly and your heart tightens. That is not opening to the present moment, that is closing to the present moment. Living authentically would be to sit up tall and say to yourself, “Even though I made a mistake just now, I totally and completely love and accept myself in this moment, in this mistake that I made. I accept the guilt I have. I accept how I feel shamed and even though I feel shamed, I accept and I love myself.” And that will feel different for many of you. I ask you to experience different. I ask you to live in the truthfulness of each moment and that is authentic.
My new definition of ‘authentic’ is living in the truthfulness of the moment. Living in it. The opposite of that, the flip side of that, would be denying the truthfulness of the moment. Denying is judgment. Denying is blame. And then not loving yourself because you feel all those things. One cannot go with the other. If you feel the blame, the guilt, and the denial, if you feel it in your head, you’re feeling it your body. And then you live those feelings. But the other piece of that is loving those feelings. It’s the other piece–loving those feelings. We see you just have the feelings and continue throughout your day with the feelings. There is no release there. We’re not asking you to stop feeling the feelings. We are asking you to love the feelings anyway. That’s authenticity. That’s living authentically.
Stay tuned for Jerry’s words on Authenticity!
In service with spirit,