If you are like me, you’ve been taking things personally for most of your life. Or maybe–unlike me–you’ve known that there is a difference between a situation being personal and taking it personally. How did it take me 51 years to figure this out? The only answer I have is…It takes as long as it takes!
I remember the exact moment when I distinguished there WAS a difference. I’ve been taking things personally and not knowing how to fix this for as long as I can remember. If someone doesn’t like you, if a person says they don’t want to go to the movies with you, if no one comes to your class, if your friend reacts with resistance after they ask for your opinion…how can you NOT take those things personally!!! I struggled with the emotions around all of those situations no matter what anyone said to me about how I was feeling. If I had a dollar for every time someone told me to “not to take it personally,” I’d be a millionaire!
In the past, I thought one went along with the other. In the past, I thought if he/she didn’t want to go out with me, if they didn’t love me, if they didn’t like my idea, if they didn’t call when they said they would…I must be a bad person. I must be unlovable. I must blah, blah, blah…and the list went on and on. This time, I could really feel there is a difference in my personal view. As I gain more and more confidence in me and my self-esteem grows, I feel myself allowing these types of moments to fall away with just a breath.
I have been going through some really powerful changes the last few years. Most of the “ah ha” moments have been about me owning my power, taking back my personal power and really accepting who I am in this life-time; my soul purpose. Just the other day something happened where I’d normally have to really pull myself up by my bootstraps in order to get through it, to not take it personally. However, this time, I am really feeling good about who I am. I’m in love–unconditional love–with ME. And I was feeling no one could knock me off this high feeling. That situation didn’t affect me the same way. I thought to myself, “I usually take this sort of thing personally,” but not this time. Although this is personal, I don’t have to take it personally!
This is a very difficult experience to understand and explain here. But my hope is that some of it got through to those of you who still allow yourself to take things personally. It’s not something you need to do anymore. Of course, there will always be someone who resists you or doesn’t especially like you (I’m being kind here). Now you can play with the idea that there may be a different way to look at the situation. Love yourself. If you can’t, who else will? Love yourself through everything. Love yourself even though…
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